Solutions to De-Stress | Secrets to Overcoming Stress – Part 2
Stress is an expression of a bad lifestyle. It’s something that is normally not present but created by its bearers. A lifestyle change can alleviate Stress drastically.
Here are some keys to De-stress:
1. Keeping First things First
Many preachers have defined the priority for an individual in the following order: First God, Second Family and Third Everything Else!
This is completely wrong. Many ministers have ignored family because they put God as their first priority resulting in untold suffering by the Family Members. This definition needs to change; Instead, it should be First God, First Family. Both God and Family are our first priority and are equal in their importance.
Most managers complain that when they delegate work to their subordinates, they complain that most of the time was wasted in doing things that were of no priority. Keep first things first and be content and happy in yourself.
Mathew 22:36-37 – “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’[a] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’
Jesus Himself defined the priority in following the commandments. Imagine, if a believer were to do everything else except the two equally important commandments listed above.
2. Learn to wait upon the Lord to give you the Strength
Develop a culture of waiting upon the LORD in Prayer and so receiving Strength. God’s Strength that comes from waiting upon Him divinely propels us to greater accomplishments than when we go ahead and do things on our own self. Many of us are into so many things, with no Grace to accomplish the things they started. They try a myriad of business opportunities only to find that none have succeeded. Some try different relationships to find a perfect soul mate only to find out that no one was ever able to understand them. People try jobs, change them and take on so much stress but aren’t satisfied and end up stressed. If only we waited on the LORD after Prayer and looked to Him, His guidance will certainly lead us to greener pastures and places of prosperity and goodwill.
3. Go slow! Take one step at a time.
Some want to make it big and in the process take huge leaps ending up in increased pressure to pay loans, manage the leap and so on. The result is Stress. Remember, the spiritual law that when “we are faithful in small things, God is able to entrust us greater things. (Luke 16:10)”
Go slow in your life, step by step, gradually building your experience and ability to handle pressure. Politicians come up in bigger posts late in their life and no doubt stay there for a long time because of their ability to work hard and make it up there.
Deuteronomy 33:25 As your days, so shall your strength be.
4. Make room for simplicity not for complexity.
Jesus had a simple lifestyle. He was the most busiest person than any of us, yet, he knew how to handle his engagements, his work, his duty, his spiritual life. Jesus was most simple in his lifestyle. He was focused on Prayer, Evangelism and Teaching to his disciples. His life wasn’t a complex wired structure on the other hand it was simple and manageable.
We all are victims of modernization! Under the guise of development, technology and advancement, Stress has made its living with us. Everything that Technological solutions have promised us haven’t delivered us as promised a reduce in our Stress. Reports have suggested where Facebook users are lonely than what they were supposed to be – Social. Mobile phones have made people distant and on their own than what was promised – to bring people closer. (Note: This critical approach is not an overall assumption. I agree that Technology has really helped the society in bridging many gaps but the question remains where it also has opened avenues to newer kinds of problems that when they are left untreated can wreck lives.)
Have you considered deleting the Apps on your mobile which occupy so much space and are rarely used. Have you considered the things which waste up your time, chats, calls, visits etc that add no value to your future ending you up in Stress. Have you considered throwing up the utensils in your kitchen that stay up there and add more maintenance work to you?? Have you considered a clean up of your ward robe to store only apparel that you are in use??
Are you enjoying a simple life style that is well organized and disciplined. Are you able to eat and sleep on time?? De-stress yourself my friend!
“The more the things the more the stress! The more the clutter the more the work! – Pastor Sumeet Manakan J”
5. Love your Enemies
Hate, Bitterness, Grudge, Anger are all factors that contribute to greater Stress. When your mind is filled with Revenge, it is Stressed! When we leave away the burden of responding to what others have done to us we are free to focus on others things, our heart is light and relaxed. The secret of Jesus being so calm and peaceful was the way he handled criticism and offense. He never took it seriously.
Luke 6:27 “But I say to you who hear: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you.”
6. Learn to work smart & efficient.
Sometimes, solutions are there around us but we fail to employ. Delegation of work and responsibility eases the Stress around us. The Tabernacle of God which was a temple with a huge set up tent was a huge task to the Israelites. The activities in the Tabernacle of God in the Old Testament were many – the management of visitors, sacrifice of the lambs, the cleaning of the animals, the neatness, the table and the showbread, the lamp stands, the inner sanctuary and so on. The LORD assigned specific activities to each set of individuals for the work of the sanctuary and its maintenance. This is a great lesson for us to learn.
Sometimes, we see people taking too much load of running a business, family or job on themselves without delegating the work to others.
Numbers 4:19 Aaron and his sons shall go in and appoint each of them to his service and his task.
7. Turn to God in Prayer
When you’re overcome with anxiety, stress, and loss, more than ever, you need to turn to God. He is your ever-present help in times of trouble. The Bible recommends taking everything to him in prayer.
This verse in Philippians offers the comforting promise that as we pray, our minds will be protected by an inexplicable peace:
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6-7, NIV)
8. Take Physical Care
Obessity is a cause for more Stress. There are conditions of the body like Thyroid, Excess Fat, Hypertention and so on that are physical by nature and contribute to Stress. Have a lifestyle that has exercise as a part of it, healthy food and rest. There are foods and fruits that de-stress the body.
9. Confess your weakness before God to receive His Grace
Some of us have a problem saying a “No” when they are asked to do a work, activity or job. We take it on ourselves as a matter of pride, ego, innocence or whatever you may call it. Sometimes, confessing that you are not good enough for a job or activity will allow you the space to take some rest.
2 Corinthians 13:9 – For we are glad when we are weak and you are strong
10. Do what you Love
There’s great joy in doing what you love to do and stress in doing what you don’t love to do. In career counseling it is observed that those who took up careers to fulfill the wishes of their parents were stressed in following the course and working for the job they never wanted to do. Eventually, they had to opt out of those career lines and go back to what they loved the most.
Joshua 24:15 And if it seems evil to you to serve the LORD, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”
11. Spend time in Worship and in Meditation
It’s medically proven that Music has the power to heal the Soul of its wounds. Music is relaxing to the heart and mind. In Worship with the aid of Music, we are able to lift up our Soul and be our real self before God, telling Him of our weakness and our need to be healed by His Presence.
Meditation in the Word is also a form of relaxation where we take time out to calm ourselves down and delve deeper into God’s Word. When the truth of His Word is enlightened in our heart, our soul is lit up in awe and strengthened with a new revelation.
Psalms 86:12 – “I will praise You, O Lord my God, with all my heart, And I will glorify Your name forevermore. 13 For great is Your mercy toward me, And You have delivered my soul from the depths of Sheol.”
Psalms 119:103 – “How sweet are Your words to my taste, Sweeter than honey to my mouth!”